How to Get Long Distance Relationship Advice Personalized For You

 Are you contemplating getting into a long distance relationship? Are you in one, but want to move it to the next level of commitment? Perhaps you are thinking of ending one. What is the best way to get the right long distance relationship advice for you?

There is no right or wrong advice. However, there are two types. One is practical. One is personal.

Practical long distance relationship advice might include how to have a virtual date from a distance or how to save on airline tickets. This is fine, but it really does not get to the point of seeking this advice in the first place.

The point for long distance relationship advice is to determine if such a relationship can work for you. You have to determine what you need, and then speak these needs honestly with the object of your affection.

The more you relax, take a deep breath and allow yourself to express your feelings the more your advice will flow.

Here is a method.

1. You will need a pad and pen, the lists below and a time when you will not be interrupted.

1. Get relaxed, still and centered. Perhaps listening to some soft, meditation music would aid in this process.

2. Then read the two lists below.

3. Begin to write your own ideas in response to each list. You will be very surprised at the results!

4. Wait at least one day. Then read the lists again.

5. At this point set aside a time to discuss your honest conclusions with the object of your affection.

6. This will provide healing and constructive resolution to your seeking long distance relationship advice.

List One: The Benefits of A Long Distance Relationship

1. Romance sizzles more. When there is time between your visits face to face contact is so much more intense and exciting, like heroin for the romance junkie.

2. Romantic Extended. Your grumpy moods, indigestion indiscretions, skin breakouts, snoring and fowl breathe are masked by the benevolence of distance. This allows you to stay in the "perfect" stage of the relationship much longer.

3. Have your space. Do you ever feel there are times when you just want to lay low, watch mindless TV, not shower or be bothered by anyone? It's sometimes really nice to just have your space, isn't it?

4. Have Your Freedom. You can be "involved" without the overhead. You can go out with friends, engage in other hobbies, avoid family obligations and do what you want to do, yet still have an intimate connection only a long distance relationship can provide.

List Two: Negative Effects of A Long Distance Relationship

1. Sexual fidelity can be questioned. It is no doubt that your partner might be filling his or her time with other people. Fidelity can easily be challenged.

2. Getting to know the real person can be slow and difficult. If you want to get married and have a family, a long distance relationship would prevent you from really getting to know someone. You need to take time to actually be physically closer.

3. Loneliness. If you are the type of person who gets fixed on one person, it might be difficult to simply go out with friends when your "true love" is miles away in another city.

Take your responses to these lists and set them aside for a day or so then bring them out.

What do your lists tell you? You will probably see a pattern. What is your long distance relationship advice to yourself? The answers should be clear. Now discuss this with your love partner.

Honest communications with yourself and then this person will bring you to the perfect long distance relationship advice for you.